Gidsen voor de problemen die echt voorkomen

The 2-2-3 rotation explained with a real calendar: who has the children when, why weekends alternate, which ages it suits, and how to start one.

Week-on, week-off explained: the handover day that works best, how to soften the seven-day gap with a midweek visit, and a calendar you can send.

Fixed weekdays with each parent plus alternating five-night weekends. Who it suits, how it compares with 2-2-3, and a calendar to try it.

How to divide school holidays, Christmas and summer between two homes without renegotiating every year. Alternating rules, split halves and a calendar with the holidays already on it.

A short, factual way to ask your co-parent for a swap or a permanent change, with message templates you can copy and a checker that flags anything likely to backfire.

Practical rules that lower the temperature: brief, factual, one topic per message, no bait. With examples of what to send instead and a tool that checks your draft first.

Copy-and-adapt messages for the situations that come up every week: swaps, lateness, school news, money, illness, holidays and setting a boundary.

What each approach means, when parallel parenting is the healthier choice, how the day-to-day differs, and how to move between them as things settle.

Why one calendar beats two, what should go in it, how to handle changes without a phone call, and how to set one up in ten minutes.

A calm, proportionate way to keep a record: what to keep, what to leave out, how to store it, and how to talk about it without it becoming a weapon.

A printable checklist for changeover day: what goes in the bag, what to say, what to write down, and how to keep the handover itself short and calm.