Structured messaging

Messages that get answers, not arguments.

PeaceParent messages are built around requests and decisions. A schedule change is a proposal with dates and an approve or decline. A decision is recorded when both parents agree. Nothing is an open-ended thread.

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Messages that get answers, not arguments.

You will recognise these

Chat apps reward speed, not clarity

A quick reply at 11pm is how a swap request turns into a row about last Christmas.

Requests get buried

Ask for something in a long thread and it disappears under everything that came after.

What was agreed is nobody's job to record

Six messages later, both parents remember a different outcome.

How structured messaging works

One channel for parenting

Messages are about the children. The structure makes it easy to leave everything else out.

Requests with an outcome

Schedule changes are proposals with dates and a reply-by date. Approve or decline, and the calendar updates.

Decisions recorded

Propose a decision about school, health or money. When the other parent agrees, it is stored where both can find it.

Tone Guard built in

Every message is checked as you write it. See the feature page for what it catches.

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